Marriage - Qualities of a Wife




 The inner qualities and good character of a woman may not be apparent until after marriage. Many women have been praised based on their appearance, but later on, it is discovered that it was not true. Islam encourages those seeking marriage to choose a woman who possesses faith and fulfills the objectives of a lawful marriage. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!”. (Agreed upon)1

Therefore, religion should be the foundation of the engagement. Additionally, one should consider her good manners, noble character, and pleasant demeanor, as her beauty shines through her faith and character. If a woman possesses religion, wealth, lineage, and beauty, then she is the ideal choice. However, do not prioritize beauty over faith. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “The world is but a (quick passing) enjoyment; and the best enjoyment of the world is a pious and virtuous woman”. 

(Muslim)2

Before engagement, patience should be your guide, and inquiring about her parents' character is fundamental in understanding your future wife's character. Flaws in the character of either parent can have a negative impact on her.





References:

1 Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Book of Marriage, Chapter: Competence in Religion, Hadith number (5090), and Muslim, Book of Breastfeeding, Chapter: The Recommendation of Marrying a Woman with Religion, Hadith number (1466), from the narration of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him.

2 Book of Breastfeeding, Chapter: The Best Provision of the World is a Righteous Woman, Hadith number (1467), from the narration of Abdullah ibn Amr, may Allah be pleased with him.

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